Can rape be justified? If so, a woman is dressed in a certain way can she provoke a rapist?

As usual, I do love a debate.  Being a natural conversationalist, plus enjoying shows like: Loose Women, Question time and others, I do favour where people stand in terms of their opinions and understandings about life. I do as well, like to have another stream of options I can dip into to, just to gain a wider range of truths.

One topic from another lead to Rape. I put forward the question:

Can rape be justified?

 &

If a woman is dressed in a certain way can she provoke a rapist?

I was blown away with some responses.

“You rarely hear of a covered woman being raped”.

“A woman is to blame partly because of how she is portraying herself”.

“If you ask more people they will tell you the same thing”.

From more I heard:

“Rape has nothing to do with how someone dresses”.

And so on.

A good couple of people have their heads screwed on. That’s good to know.

Following on I asked:

‘If female dressed revealingly was raped and then the same man who raped her, raped a woman fully covered, whose fault is it?”

Stutters and silences were in order here.

So, this heated me up because it’s clear we fail to educate , and can easily justify an act so disgusting, because there are people up in our everyday lives who lack, wisdom , understanding and standard life education.

Rape, according. Wikipedia (which I know be a very unreliable source, as it can be altered by any member of the public, however its definition in my book is solid)

  “Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration, carried out against a person without that person’s consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as :one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the legal age of consent.

I have alsoresearched  into the statistics of rape here on: https://rapecrisis.org.uk/statistics.php

For all you simple minds, Rape is NOT about seduction. The idea of this is plain stupid. The ignorance of some has simply missed what rape is about. Rape isn’t about Sex, it’s about control! It’s using the act of sex to have that over an individual. Victims already blame themselves. As a result of thinking it’s their fault. They’d beat themselves already. The side effects of feeling inadequate dirty and belittled women who blame other women for it adds to their guilt and shame even more. Not only that, gives rapists the heads up because, of course, a lady does ask for it when she is incapable of saying no, or doesnt want it. Even though she may show a little skin. The amount of women who blame fellow women for the idea that it is * their fault*, because of how they are dressed, you better make sure you keep wrapped in sheets, blankets and pillows. Never let an inch of skin show because clearly an evil sex maniac will not be able to control themselves around you. Showing skin may draw the wrong attention. But it doesn’t invite a rapist to do what he does.

To the sane world, of course, sexual immorality is very much glamorized and taken out of proportion. However, each to their own sexual choice. But the miss education about it really gets under my skin. As a woman, I know what it’s like to be free in myself. From what I dress, to what I express. Everything is my choice. How I dress and who I sleep with. Willingly, I can participate in what I choose. Unfortunately, this may blur lines. I may seem a tad too open. But I know what empowers me and who I am, it’s a shame it can be misinterpreted. We should, as women are able to explore and express ourselves without fear of what firstly: what others will think of us and secondly what others will do to us.

Clearly allow the beliefs that women cannot dress the way they like, just because of the fear that a short skirt shouts consent.  Women who dress modestly STILL GET RAPED!

In marriage, rape happens. People will ask how? If your married aren’t you entitled to have sex, when and where you want? Even if your spouse is tired, or just doesn’t want to? No man or women is designated sex with anyone. Wanting Sex is choice. Being married to someone doesn’t ok it. I never once heard of marriage vows mentioning that is was hunky dory to do so. The reason here as well is because it isn’t done so obviously. Many picture raped as just a case where a woman is dragged from the streets, screams and most cases either treated violently, or even killed. Manipulators, abusers and maniacs usually have ways of emotionally blackmailing, sweet talk, or make others feel like they are owed it can do so. Emotionally abuse binds the deepest wounds. It may not be shouted aloud, but it is whispered in the dark shadows of pain. It’s employed most by abusers, who take advantages of life behind closed doors. Usually, it can be the hardest to prove. With this, it usually comes down to word over word. That’s why it’s gotten away with. Several cultures and misuse of religions teaches men that they are powerful and that their wives must do so. Otherwise, they aren’t performing their marital duties. This makes women feel they need to, rather than they want to. That goes against all women’s rights.

Rape happens to the young, the old, the disabled, the drunk, and the sober. You guessed it? Everyone. Committing this offence has to do the perpetrator.

Any woman who excuses a rapist because of how a woman is dressed sincerely need just as much help as the rapist himself. Now, you might not participate in it, but you side with the persecutor rather than the victim and that’s a disgrace.

A ‘No’ doesn’t need to be screamed.

It can be said silently and be respected.

Your head and heart needs help. You need education. And you need a huge amount help in understanding.

 Rapists are to blame for rape. Get that through your thick heads.

 

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