What is meant as a fault and a responsibility?
Situations lead to us becoming confused about the place we stand in them. whether the outcome be of fault, whether that fault be a conscious or unconscious one, or, just being able to handle to responsibility of one’s actions, words, or other contributing factors. We can sometimes refuse to take on responsibility and other times are too hard on ourselves when it comes to fault. Technically, the next big decision will be dealt with far better conduct. We don’t need beat ourselves up at all when we know the deal. It’s about shifting perspective and embracing awareness.
When we understand: what is means to be in control over situations, rather than be controlled by one… Then we can afford to know what to take from it. We can choose a better part to play in a role that may come again. It’s crucial to get these terms because it allows a person a wider perspective and gives peace for when it comes to moving on.
Sometimes relationships end. Jobs end. A way of living ends.
Other times: we end them, or we tend to believe they end us.
Let’s take a look at what it is to have fault:
Fault is the heavier of the two. When ones intelligence is able to outline whether one is of fault, and one can take responsibility it eliminates victimhood. Putting yourself at fault makes you victim. The only time when isn’t a victim is when a person is purely at complete fault. I am talking extreme cases such as: rapist paedophiles and murderers. Other cases under this as well. But these cases the perpetrator is clearly at full fault and withholds all responsibility to the wrongdoing of that act. When a person is being abused and fully taken advantage of then that person is never to blame, full blame goes to the attacker. No responsibility is put on the one who has suffered the misfortune. Often, in these extreme situations, a timid victim will tend to bully themselves thinking ‘if they had been more careful, if they weren’t at that place at that time, if they hadn’t had worn this and that’ then they could’ve avoided that situation. But it’s definitely nothing to do with the victim. When two people or more are involved in a situation one party is in forced and order and the other is a slave to its rhythm than it could never be the case. Only when both parties agree to be there rather than it’s another game altogether.
A purposeful Fault is: a rapist, a murderer, a paedophile. In my eyes, there is no real understanding. I leave that to psychologists.
An accidental fault: such as forgetting the pay for something put into a pram when your child is crying so you loose concentration. Or leaving the front door unlocked at night because you were too tired and weren’t in your right mind before setting off to sleep.
These things can lead to being able to accept responsibility but can be excused with reason.
To be responsible puts us in a hero position. It lightens the load. When your able to accept the part you played and take charge of that, be it big or small. This excludes the extremes I have mentioned above. To be responsible means to say you hold your hands up to your thoughts, actions and behaviours in a certain situations. It means you consciously agreed even before partaking.
For example : when we accept and recognize our role we are able to steer the wheel more into a destination that suits the best of who we are. Louise Hay calls Earth Angels the nice people who find themselves in toxic relationships. These people are often too good but accept bad behaviours and excuse them. Even if it means sacrificing their own self esteems and values.
Other times are when people are slightly unconscious about the role they participate in. I remember reading somewhere that Louise Hay said that often times when we are abused, we are no better than the abuser if we continue to abuse ourselves after that. Even if we put ourselves down continuously then we are no better than the people who do that. More often than so, we never realize that we have to in fact fully have power over the way we treat ourselves and let ourselves be treated. Some situations we can’t control. Like for example: you can never fix what someone thinks about you. Nor feel. You can’t untangle someone thoughts and you simply cannot insert or exert feelings they may feel about you. However, you can choose the part you want to implement. . When we can its duty. Once we are aware, we can start. At the same time… Its full duty. When it is unconscious then it’s a difficult deal. Once you have power to control changes, then responsibility is yours.
Responsibility in job roles be it small or big is still being done with trust. Roles in relationships where people need to understand that even if someone did treat you bad you must take responsibility of your part being there in the first place gather insight then construct your next move. Never apply fault, as it’s too bulky and unnecessary. A rapist, abuser etc, are very responsible for what they do when they make someone a victim of their evil actions. It’s their entire fault.
I felt it useful to outline the both as sometimes where fault could be replaced with responsibility. its a whole new lift plus, could be could be embraced. Depending on the side of the story, it’s likely so, one wouldn’t be able to so hard on themselves where it isn’t necessary. It’s good to know the difference but even better to know who to give the title to.
Earth Angels : A FURTHER READ.https://www.facebook.com/louiselhay/posts/10152112891499750